Are You Dating The Same Person In Different Bodies Over And Over?
Here’s how to recognize karmic patterns, also known as paper-doll syndrome, and how to stop.
The following is an excerpt from my latest piece on karmic relationships for ILY Mag.
It was my first date post-heartbreak. I was surprised it was even happening. It would usually take me roughly two years to “get back out there” again after the sting of betrayal, but here I was, enjoying wine, pasta and unlimited possibilities with a man I barely knew, years ahead of schedule.
And, then it happened. That recognizable stench of familiarity that sounds off all of the alarms to warn me that I’ve entered a portal into the past. Red flags were being thrown on every play, but this time, I wasn’t willing to pull a Bob Ross and turn them into pretty little trees.
I was paying attention, because this has happened many times before—the energy of an ex from years ago, a man who somehow seems to haunt my life since the day he entered it, was all over this man now sitting in front of me. Same background. Same career aspirations. Same look. Same vices. Same energy.
I used to always say I was suffering from the paper-doll syndrome (dating the same man in different bodies), which only became that much clearer writing my book Let That Shit Go: A Journey to Forgiveness, Healing and Understanding Love, where the repetitive cycles and lessons with love became (embarrassingly) louder.
As a mystic and personal development junkie, I knew I was being put in the same situation over and over again for a reason. I don’t believe in coincidences, but what I do believe in is karma–especially karmic relationships.
Author and intuitive energy healer Cynthia Dale describes karmic partnerships as, “relationships based on either previous associations or common issues. These prior relationships are often carried over from past lives and involve an incomplete learning about love.”
She’s well-aware that this might be a little too woo-woo for some, adding that “understanding that idea necessitates believing that all living beings have a soul, or an aspect of them that travels across time and space, and has a sort of ‘deep storage’ of memory inside. We can also attract people into our lives because their issues exactly match our own.”
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