The Emotional Loop: A Guide for People Who’ve Done the Work and Still Feel Stuck
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If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’re not at the beginning of your healing journey.
You’ve reflected. You’ve analyzed your patterns. You’ve probably had moments of deep clarity about why you feel the way you feel and why certain relationships or situations keep pulling at you the same way.
And yet… something still hasn’t shifted.
I know this place intimately.
Before I was a mystic, a coach, or someone who holds space for others, I was a woman trying to understand why I kept repeating the same emotional and relational patterns despite having all the language, insight, and self-awareness to explain them.
My book, Let That Shit Go: A Journey to Forgiveness, Healing & Understanding Love, was born out of that season of my life—a reckoning with the stories, attachments, and survival strategies that once kept me safe, but were quietly keeping me stuck.
What I discovered—first in myself, and later in my work with others—is something most personal growth spaces don’t name clearly…
Insight alone does not dissolve emotional loops.
I thought that if I could just understand my patterns deeply enough, and analyze them until they nearly disintegrated, that would be enough. Things would magically change, and I’d be smooth sailing into calmer territory.
Life has humbled me more times than I’d like to admit.
What happened instead was a stark realization: understanding your trauma does not automatically rewire how your nervous system responds. And awareness, while powerful, has a ceiling.
An emotional loop is not a failure of healing. It’s a sign that something in you is still organized around an old version of safety.
The shame of feeling stuck when you think you’re supposed to be “further along” can feel quite defeating, so I created this free audio teaching and worksheet to help you.
The Emotional Loop: A Guide for People Who’ve Done the Work and Still Feel Stuck is a short, grounded orientation to what’s actually happening when you keep circling the same feelings, reactions, or relationship dynamics—even after years of self-work.
In the audio, I explain what emotional loops really are, why awareness often stops working here, and what needs to be present for real, embodied change to begin.
You can listen to the audio right here:
For those who like a little extra credit, you can download the accompanying worksheet here:
This work sits at the intersection of what I’ve spent years studying and living: shadow integration, psychological astrology, and deep, trauma-informed coaching.
I don’t believe your psyche and your spirit are separate. I believe healing happens when they’re finally allowed to speak to each other—and when insight is given the time, support, and relational safety it needs to become something you can feel, not just understand.
If this resonates, you’ll likely feel at home here.
This Substack is a space for depth, integration, and honest inquiry—for people who are ready to stop circling the same internal stories and begin meeting themselves in a more truthful way.
Start with the audio. Take your time with the worksheet. And please know that feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It usually means you’re ready for what’s next.
If you feel called to work with me personally, feel free to explore my services here.
Xo