The Shadow of the Sharp Tongue
What I learned when I realized I'd rather be feared than loved.
I’ve often said that true power is not rooted in fear, it’s rooted in respect. And yet, I spent many years utilizing fear to feel powerful—especially in relationships.
When you grow up in a world that makes you feel like your words don’t matter, that you don’t even have a say in what happens to you or your own life, you can begin to feel quite helpless.
And then there’s the rage.
I feel like I was born with thousands of years of rage enclosed in my bones, and truth be told, there was an unconscious part of me that was just waiting for something or someone to activate it.
As much as I claimed to hate conflict, there was a part of me that loved to unleash my sharp tongue on people. It felt like I was finally able to say the words that were suppressed for generations.
And given that I’m a seer, I had a weapon at my disposal. It took a lot for me to use it, but when I would, there was no holding back.
In the clip above, which is from my Dark Side of the Moon workshop over the weekend, I share a realization that came to me a couple of years ago…
There were moments when I felt like I would rather people fear me than love me, because then at least they won’t take advantage of me.
There’s a shadow confession within that statement—one that reveals a limiting belief around vulnerability becoming a liability. It justifies power dynamics as a form of protection while confessing that once upon a time, I loved someone who weaponized that love against me.
And I vowed, never again.
As I mention in the video, this isn’t to shame or judge our shadow. It’s just to recognize that sometimes, the shadow is unleashed in environments and situations that don’t require its wrath.
And if we’re not careful, if we refuse to do the inner work of maintaining control over our impulses, we can perpetuate the same harm we claim to be fighting against.
Our moon holds so much of why we move in the world the way that we do, which is why I wanted to hold a workshop solely focused on the shadows, gifts, and emotional survival strategies that are birthed through our moon sign.
If you missed it, you can still experience the playback here.
In Dark Side of the Moon, I show you how to pull up your birth chart, what each sign holds as its shadow and gift, the unintegrated qualities of the sister sign, the mother wound and emotional strategies born through these energies, and practical tools to help you begin pattern breaking in the moment.
You’ll also receive a PDF guide as a resource for your journey, which includes an overview of the signs and their shadow traits, the houses at a glance, the planetary archetypes and a fill-in-the-blank section to do some hot girl math.
Shadow work is liberation work, and your moon holds the key to some of your deepest unconscious beliefs.
If you’re ready to take back control of your narrative, here’s one way to start.
Xo