I’ve realized that the terms Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine come up quite often, but we have yet to really dive deep into what it actually means and how it shows up.

By now, you probably already know that we all have Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energy within us. You also probably know that there are shadow aspects to each of these, which are part of the shadow work we so wonderfully talk about often.

My goal with this post is to give you a simple guide to better understand Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energy, as well as the wounded feminine and wounded masculine, so that you can begin to identify these aspects within yourself during this journey.

Divine Feminine Energies:

• softness

• devotion

• nurturing

• support

• fluidity

• feeling

• empathy

• rest

• compassion

• pleasure

• creativity

• intuition

• receptivity

• flow

• adaptability

• affection

• vulnerability

• openness

Divine Masculine Energies:

• honor

• action

• power

• freedom

• confidence

• direction

• efficiency

• reasoning

• intellectual

• analyzing

• focus

• strength

• leadership

• logic

• productivity

• accomplishment

Wounded Feminine (or the wounded little girl):

• low self-worth

• afraid to speak her truth

• compromises her integrity and values

• easily attached

• manipulative

• stuck in victimhood

• waiting to be saved

• drowning in her emotions

This Can Sound Like:

• “Am I doing it right?”

• “Is there something wrong with me?”

• “Why can’t I have what I want?”

• “This is too hard…”

• “Why is no one helping me?”

• “Why don’t I deserve it?”

• “Good things can’t happen to me.”

• “Why don’t you like me?”

Wounded Masculine (or the inner bully):

• extremely critical

• emotionally unavailable

• controlling

• constant inner and outer conflict

• reactive

• impulsive

• selfish

• needing to be right

• stuck in the mind

• aggressive

• afraid of failure

This Can Sound Like:

• “What’s wrong with you?”

• “Why can’t you do it faster?”

• “Everyone can do this, why can’t you?”

• “You’re not doing it right.”

• “You should be trying harder.”

• “You should be doing more.”

• “Make it happen!”

• “Don’t do that ever again!”

• “You should be doing like this.”

Ways to Balance Excess Feminine Energies:

• Boundaries—learn how to say no.

• Listen—offer support and safety to others without having to fix.

• Try a competitive task.

• Take responsibility for yourself.

• Tap into masculine energy by taking action on something that excites you.

• Be assertive and decisive.

• Honor your self-confidence.

Ways to Balance Excess Masculine Energies:

• Honor your rest.

• Listen to your body’s energetic wisdom.

• Movement.

• Spend time with children.

• Pick up gardening or raising a pet, something nurturing.

• Honor moments for creativity.

• Be open to expressing your vulnerabilities.

By all means, this is not a comprehensive list on the matter, but it’s a good place to start.

I encourage you to continue doing your own research to gain deeper insight on your personal journey.

Again, both of these lists apply to you. While one may be more dominant in your physical identity, both energies are alive and well within you, so keep that in mind as you continue to educate yourself.

Like many spiritual topics, the rabbit hole only gets deeper and deeper as you go, so follow the pings and remain curious. This is not about judgement or shame, but observation and clarity.

You can’t heal what you don’t know is hurting.

Xo.